My Boundaries!

I can entertain genuine curiosity + queries towards my spirituality and beliefs, but if you are only here to unconvert or pettily debate with me on religious issues, I do not want to fight any further. You automatically lose to your own debate and you will never have the power to pull me away from God's love. Kindly refrain from that behavior, too.

I do not mind having friends who are non believers or of other religious and non religious affiliations alike. Know however that if you do not allow me to share my faith or force me to believe in your beliefs and not my own, this friendship will not work out, I'm sorry. I do not want to compromise nor drastically change my values just because of connections I have with others. Of course, I do allow others to share what they believe in and stand for as long as they are not offensive to mine and others' beliefs in general.

Once you start to feel uncomfortable or off with me talking or discussing my faith, beliefs, and so on, please do let me know instead of ghosting me or stop talking to me all at once. Seriously, I can adjust and I won't take it personally when I am told about it, okay? :">

Yes, I do not drink (alcohol + liquors), smoke, vape, drugs, etc. In other words, I do not engage in vices for personal and spiritual reasons as I personally do not find pleasure in these. No, I am not comfortable nor will not allow convictions otherwise that they are 'social norms needed to conform to'. Socialization is not limited to drinking, using drugs, and smoking, really. I respect and do not mind that there are people who enjoy those (like some of my friends and most of my family members). However, if you cannot respect my personal decision, then I can't be your friend for a long time and I am sorry for your loss.

Normally, I refrain from cursing and swearing. If or when I do, that means I am angry and or have reached my limit. I don't say this to excuse myself but also a reminder that if I can't control my tongue especially as a Christian I'd need some accountability and honesty on both your behalf, my behalf, and God's.

Humor is very subjective, but once it's not well received by me and or other fellows, you most probably have offended me + others or the joke isn't that funny. This applies to humor that could be tagged as intentionally sexist, racist, homophobic, anti-religion, etc. Plus, jokes are meant to be laughed at, not targeted to hurt people indirectly.

For jokes pertaining to religion and beliefs, preferably the message or 'point' of the jokes are not to mock the faith + doctrine + the trinity, they also do not promote self-harm, and they do not bring harmful intentions to others. Also dank Christian memes/humor is okay so are Biblical/Bible based memes + humor you can share them with me >:3

Let's normalize respecting each other's time! Frankly I may have time management issues as well as reading the room whether someone needs time for or time off for things and people, please know I also am busy at times because life happens. I eventually update when I can make time or have time for you and when I do have the time, I really want to practice not only being respectful but also being intentional, productive, and encouraging especially when connecting in general. I hope I do my part in being understanding and may this also be a way to clear off any tension and possible unrealistic expectations for all parties involved.

Regardless of how long we have known each other and who we are to one another, I'd prefer it that "joke gaslighting"; whether in a lighthearted manner or half meant, it's best avoided in interactions with me. Besides the times I am not always fast at picking up or reading "joking tones", but it ends up triggering my thoughts into dark places in my mind. I will try my best to control myself but for now I also don't want my brain to be polluted with negativity and discomfort for the time being.

I don't like being copied on purpose or mocked with my words and gestures whether as a joke or not. I would eventually feel less encouraged to try to express myself let alone communicate with you further. Though impersonations are different, if mockery comes across the intention of humiliating and belittling me then no, that's not okay with me. So no thanks.

I dislike being interrupted and interruptions! I also will try my best to avoid chances of interrupting anyone in conversations so when that happens, please and kindly tell me if I accidentally interrupted you. I'll also adjust accordingly. Joke interruptions are fine but don't do it as constant to irk me to the core, alright?

Not always a fan of small talk; do expect me to say something unhinged or random when I have the energy to socialize heh >:1

I greet good mornings good afternoons and good nights as for formalities and for politeness sake please don't take this as a sign of me taking romantic interest in you, thanks.

Be mindful too when there are talks and jokes about sensitive topics* (placed at the very end of this list)

When I mention I do have sensitive certains such as trust issues, attachment issues, parental issues and so on, I’m not joking about it. I could look like I deal with it through self-roast humor but that’s just the tip of the iceberg. I will open up when I can be honest and vulnerable about it (of course, both parties are also mentally and emotionally prepared for such time to discuss and debrief).

I do not like being placed on the spot for personal questions and please do anticipate if you will approach me with a personal question, I appreciate heads-ups and trigger warnings always. I would like to come in mentally prepared to have certain conversations especially if they happen to be sensitive as well.

I do not and will not entertain topics about my love life unless I am comfortable and trust you enough for me to open up to share about it.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE,, DO NOT CONFESS TO ME ANONYMOUSLY. Make yourself known then I will make my answers known to your confession. I don't like public online confessions either, so take courage and time to tell me in person privately. I am NOT a celebrity and I will NOT take the spotlight for romantic shenanigans, seriously.

Online behavior and activities varies. There will be days I'm more comfortable just connecting through just online, but most preferably I like hanging out in person when it's possible for both parties.

Apologies in advance as well when I end up from spamming messages to sending dry messages to being left on read at times, I end up getting either busy or distracted off my screen. Either way there will be times and days where I have limited to no access to my phone because of schedules or simply resting from not using my devices.

I strongly dislike being left on inbox/delivered/seen; for a reason that it's also a pet peeve of mine for others who don't reply to questions/previous key messages or have very dry/short responses most especially when the conversation is important. Honestly, just do tell me off if I'm bothersome or keep flooding the chat space.

I don't like it when there are videos, images, or posts about me taken/talked about without my consent and knowledge. I still have struggles with my body image and how I'm perceived lately or time to time, which makes me feel too conscious and uncomfortable in my own skin. I don't mean to say this in a manner that I look vain it's more of the idea of me seen or kept as a file some place unknown by people I may not know; there's an uneasy feeling I get of being watched or stalked. Frankly, I don't have good experiences with such things and is also triggering as it reminds me how some of my family members take videos/and photos to humiliate or make fun of me.

Remember kids, don't stretch people like a stubborn pizza dough